Stepping into red, one day at a time

Stepping into red, one day at a time


Stepping into Red


I have decided to celebrate my 60th birthday (August 12, 2014) and my evolving sense of self by taking on 60 new or different things in the year of 60 (though technically I’m now in my 61st year).

I’m compiling my to-do list and have started playing with new opportunities, big and small. Some are sensuous indulgences.

I didn’t have a good pair of high heeled shoes, rationalizing that since I don’t often dress up they weren’t necessary. Why think about ‘necessary’ and practicalities. Isn’t this about me opening up to new things? What happens when I have the urge to put on heels? Why not be proactive? These thoughts were on my mind as I wandered into a shoe store in D.C. last week and found a charming salesman and some delightful shoes.

Check out my new sexy black heels, Italian made, from a company called pas de rouge—stepping into red. They were expensive, but you know what? I’m worth it.

Stepping into red may become the theme for my year.


pas de rouge

Here are some of the other treats I want to experience in this year of my 60th birthday. An asterisk means I’ve crossed that one off the list.

  1. Buy black high heels *
  2. Take a long trip alone-Santa Fe *
  3. Four hands massage *
  4. A full day at a spa- Ten Thousand Waves, Santa Fe *
  5. Say No to something I know isn’t right for me—because I need to do what suits my life  *
  6. Get new purple glasses (coming this week) *
  7. Wear lipstick more often *
  8. Maybe I’ll start wearing eye liner? *
  9. Sell my house *  In process-preparing house to go on market in spring.
  10. Take a drawing class
  11. Get in the car one weekend and just go someplace
  12. Learn to play bridge, again
  13. Go to a concert alone
  14. Publish a book
  15. Write the book!
  16. Spiritual retreat
  17. Take up yoga
  18. Take the train to NYC for a long weekend -June 2014
  19. Attend a needlepoint retreat
  20. See a Broadway play
  21. Audit a Russian literature class at The University of Virginia
  22. Take a wine tasting class
  23. Submit an essay to the New York Times or other big magazine
  24. Have sex with a woman
  25. Have sex with a much younger man
  26. Develop my webinar
  27. Book a beach house for late spring
  28. Explore a new cuisine
  29. Plan a trip to Greece
  30. Professional photo shoot
  31. Read 3 classics in this year-So I’ll read the classic spy writer, Ian Fleming and a classic in 2 other genres
  32. Form a book group
  33. Attend a class at the gym
  34. Read Anais Nin from start to finish (12/31- The Portable Anais Nin arrives via mail)
  35. Write 1000 words every day (in process)
  36. Achieve a debt free status



As you can see I have a ways to go and whether I find and check off 60 things really isn’t relevant. It’s about the journey. It is about being open to the possibility of change. It is about opening up.

  • Kathy @ SMART Living
    Posted at 10:36h, 15 December Reply

    Great list Walker and a WONDERFUL way to celebrate your 60th. I’m turning sixty next year (2015) and I plan to make the very BEST of it. Maybe I should do a list of 60 too ???? You’ve definitely inspired me to go for the red. Thanks! ~Kathy

    • Walker
      Posted at 11:01h, 15 December Reply

      Kathy-there was something about that name-Stepping Into Red-that I find intriguing. Red for women is often associated with power and attraction, so maybe this will be the year when I fulling step into that? Who knows. Maybe I’ll immerse myself in red. Whatever I do, it is fun to create a list of things I want to experience. Love to see what you plan.

  • Laura
    Posted at 11:27h, 15 December Reply

    Love the list and oh those shoes! I imagine numbers 22 and 23 won’t be too hard to tick off your list.

    • Walker
      Posted at 11:50h, 15 December Reply

      Ha! We’ll see. I wondered who would comment on those first. And, the shoes…yes, love at first sight. I love nicely made, attractive shoes!

  • kimtb
    Posted at 13:42h, 15 December Reply

    How is a tattoo not on this list?

    • Walker
      Posted at 17:35h, 15 December Reply

      Ha! Valid question–I’m not a fan of tattoos! But, who knows..

  • beverlydiehl
    Posted at 14:41h, 15 December Reply

    I love the shoes, both the cut, and the name, stepping into red, that just SOUNDS so luxurious and full of self-love. And the list.

    Curious as to what you consider a “much younger” man. I’ve done 16 years younger, would I do 20? I dunno… the ones I’ve met are a little too raw and needy for me, but…

    • Walker
      Posted at 17:37h, 15 December Reply

      Beverly-I agree, I sort of melted upon hearing the name.
      I’ve never been with a man who was more than 5 or 6 years younger. So, I’m thinking early 40s. I have no interest in raw or needy-I want intelligence, skill and respect.

  • Editor (Retired)
    Posted at 23:41h, 18 December Reply

    Hi Walker, Happy birthday and best wishes for a whole happy year. From my vantage point, 60 seems poignantly young. I can report that 60 is definitely NOT the new 40, at least not for me. Your mileage may vary.

    Great list! I especially endorse No. 7, lipstick. And I applaud your obsession with red. (We men are so shallow. But we know what we like.) I wonder if you’re not overboard regarding the “going places alone” angle. But of course there are plenty of times when we singles are alone; no reason to let that stop us from going anyplace we want. I’m sure all your fans will be anticipating your written reports (?) on No. 22 and No. 23. The only thing missing from your list is having sex with a much older man. Of course there is a supply and demand imbalance with older men. And that’s not the only problem with older men, but never mind.
    — John

    • Walker
      Posted at 07:12h, 19 December Reply

      John, I think all that ______ is the new ________ crap is just that…crap. We are the age we are–how we live that and define it is purely a personal matter.
      Love what various people are responding to. And you, along with another dear male reader are doing the ‘predictable’ thing. The ‘alone’ thing is driven by my use of being alone as an excuse for not going out at times. It is important for me if I want to travel–of course I’d gladly substitute alone for w/friend or companion. But, I do love being at the beach alone….
      As for #22 and 23…they’ve either been ignored or slipped under the radar. Why didn’t I mention an older man? Well, I had a short ‘relationship’ with a man who is almost 10 years older a few year ago-that was fine. I’m open to the possibilities–just dating a decent man of almost any age would be delightful.
      Will keep you informed of my progress.

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