A Sex Writing Award and a Little Self-Applause

A Sex Writing Award and a Little Self-Applause

I don’t take the opportunity to toot my own horn very often. And maybe I ought to? So, here we go….

Just recently I made a decision to step away from a volunteer job that was going to suck me dry. I made the decision as Mercury was going retrograde–really, it came to me like a bolt of lightening. I suddenly realized that it was time to assess everything I do from the point of my own personal needs.

Will this help me? Will it be too draining, take time from my passions and paid work? What are the benefits? Am I being appreciated?

And, more importantly–is what I’m about to take on going to advance the work of my life in this current moment? Or the month, year….

It’s hard to step away from something when there are expectations. But really, we only have a finite amount of time in any one day, in any one life. Too often, as women, we put our needs last. This isn’t the first time I’ve talked about letting go and making valuable choices. But it is (almost) the first time where I’ve made a big decision that had everything to do with my personal needs and my life goals.  Pat on the back for me. I’ve realized what brings me pleasure and what excites me when it comes to my work. I am practicing letting go. And, embracing.

OK, here’s the brag: I’ve been focusing my writing on sexuality and sexual health for almost 2 years now. Maybe more? This morning I got a lovely piece of recognition for my sex writing. Kinkly, Walker Thornton-Sex writer and educator Kinkly runs a contest each year to name the Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes. Last year I made the list with a great showing. This year I called on readers and friends to vote for me. The ranking is a compilation of social media ranking, content and support. I made the list at Number Five! I’m honored and humbled and delighted!

This “60-year-old sex goddess” is a sex guru for the over-50 set – and an inspiration to the younger sex positive crowd.  Kinkly  




This is important work that happens to be fun as well. I get to think, read, and write about sex and sexual health. It requires practice too! So, not only am I contributing to your heightened awareness of the importance of sexual health but I’m delving into midlife sexuality.  It is lots of fun…and good for us!

I’ve got a couple of exciting new writing partnerships. I’ve just started working for the women behind myLAB Box, an at-home STD testing kit–writing their blog. And, I am also looking forward to a new relationship with the American Sexual Health Association! I’m doing speaking engagements on sex and other aspects of living life as a vibrant woman.  Ooh, and something new  that you’ll hear about in the next couple of months.

Thank you for reading and supporting my work. I think of us as partners in this growing older and sexier, sassier business.



P.S.: The Kinkly contest was supported by Lelo, one of the fabulous sex toy manufacturers out there making luxury toys! I may have to add a new Lelo to my collection out of gratitude. Check ’em out!


Image- Martin Malchev/Dreamstime.com


  • Lisa Garon Froman
    Posted at 22:41h, 30 October Reply

    Congrats Walker! And well-earned. I’m very happy for you.

    • Walker
      Posted at 06:51h, 31 October Reply

      Thanks Lisa.

  • Carol Cassara (@ccassara)
    Posted at 07:37h, 31 October Reply

    Much deserved and great visibility for Boomers and the vibrance of our lives!

    • Walker
      Posted at 08:49h, 31 October Reply

      Thanks Carol. It is nice to get recognition of midlife women (and men) and all our complexity.

  • Kathy @ SMART Living 365.com
    Posted at 10:13h, 02 November Reply

    Hi Walker! While I certainly applaud you for the recognition you got from Kinkly (no small task in the blogging world I’m sure) I also want to acknowledge the BIG CHANGE that you decided to make in your life. I know it isn’t easy to make change at any age, so your willingness to push past your comfort zone and and really follow your intuition is HUGE! And even though your “volunteer job” was probably giving you rewards of its own, if it was distracting you from your true dreams then the very best thing you could do it walk away. Yay! As you say, recognizing that we only have so much time and energy, it is always SMART to go for what our hearts and souls are telling us is best for us. Good for you Walker! I’m looking forward to what you create out of this extra time and focus. ~Kathy

    • Walker
      Posted at 10:25h, 02 November Reply

      Thanks. That was the real biggie in this article. Listening to my gut and not being afraid of ‘disappointing’ someone else so therefore suppressing my own needs!

  • Julie Christine
    Posted at 12:59h, 02 November Reply

    Congratulations, Walker – both for the wonderful award and recognition and for making a decision that is best for your mental and emotional health. I recently went through something of the same and found my biggest fear was, “What will they think of me?” This thin skin I carry around needed a little toughening up, for sure.

    Onward, to a more fulfilled you!

    • Walker
      Posted at 13:34h, 02 November Reply

      Yes to onward! Isn’t it funny how we get so tripped up by that ‘nice’ routine! Always the pleaser….

  • John Hayden
    Posted at 22:17h, 03 November Reply

    Congratulations Walker! You’ve put a lot of work into this over an extended period of time. You deserve the recognition! I sometimes wonder if you’re having too much fun being a sex guru. 🙂

    • Walker
      Posted at 06:38h, 04 November Reply

      Hey stranger! Thank you John and yes, a lot of fun. I know you’re playing but really, who could protest a 60 year old embracing her sexuality?

      • John Hayden
        Posted at 22:49h, 04 November Reply

        Yes, we are surely old enough to make our own decisions. Is this a free country or what? Fifty years ago, sexy mature folks might have raised eyebrows. We are a little more enlightened now.

        • Walker
          Posted at 09:43h, 05 November Reply

          A little…. there are still people doing the “eeew” thing when we talk about sex but I think that will change with time.

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