Living a purposeful life

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Living a purposeful life

If I’m being completely honest with myself, I’ve become less focused and more disorganized since leaving the ‘real’ work world–some 9 years ago. Easily distracted, with a dozen thoughts running through my head at any given time and multiple tabs open on my browser (eleven at this moment) I could stand to be a bit more disciplined. So, in looking at how I want to be guided this year I choose the word purposeful. My desire is to live a purposeful life, from here on out.

In 2019 I will turn 65. It’s a perfect time to be more purposeful, because I’m brimming with energy and desire and options. One of the ways I can make sure I’m making choices based on what I really want, as a former people pleaser, is to ask this question every day,

“What do I desire right now?”

 

I want to be driven by my desires. By that I mean that I want to stop worrying about the opinion of others, or trying to be pleasant, or making myself small.  I want pleasure and choices and strong connections, I want to travel. I want to work with women who are also ready to change up their lives. And I want to continue to explore my capacity for desire and delight and romance (of course!). And it’s all absolutely do-able as long as I stay present and make purposeful choices.

And this is what I want you to believe about your own life. Every one of those wishes is just as achieve-able at age 64 as it was when we were 34, or 54.

On my 64th birthday I started making some decisions; one of those was to resign from my job as primary caregiver for my mother. I gave a year’s notice to my four siblings. In the coming months, my mother will move to be closer to two of her sons and grandchildren; she’s excited and so am I. Advocating for myself, giving priority to my needs was huge for me. The last year and a half of caregiving derailed many of my plans and brought about significant emotional challenges.  I needed to claim my time more than ever before.

Women get to be more self-focused in claiming their time, examining their desires, and taking steps to create the life they want to live. I know it’s hard to do. And we can do it.

Most of us have the privilege of choosing: our attitude, the foods we consume, the people we hang out with, and the decisions we make. We can choose to embrace our aging self or we can just sit back and wait out our remaining days.

I don’t recall any other time in my life when I felt more aware of the possibilities of what I could create in my life. And it excites the hell out of me. More work, more connections, more intimate moments to create and enjoy, countries to see, adventures to live, people to love, and stories to tell.

I have more to do. Don’t you?

 

So, look for me about once a week in your mailbox, check out my Instagram profile or Facebook page and join me in talking about how we can keep on showing up in our lives.

6 Comments
  • Lisa Ricard Claro
    Posted at 11:10h, 17 January Reply

    Great post. Kudos to you for having the courage to put self-care at the top of your list. Wishing you many grand adventures!

    • Walker Thornton
      Posted at 10:56h, 03 February Reply

      Lisa, thank you. We should all put self-care at the top of our list!!

  • Telmah Ferns
    Posted at 21:05h, 17 January Reply

    I found this post very exhilarating and inspiring, worth holding up as food for thought. It has sparked a desire to get organised, there’s no time like the present to get started .

  • Margo Fauchon
    Posted at 22:56h, 19 January Reply

    Great read thank you. Share you excitement, passion purposefulness. Just turned 65 last week. ‘I’m brimming with energy and desire and options” is very very similar to what I am feeling. ‘And it excites the hell out of me’ Enjoy!

    • Walker Thornton
      Posted at 10:56h, 03 February Reply

      Margo, Yeah!! Thanks for reading and sharing your story.

  • Dindoll
    Posted at 16:00h, 19 March Reply

    Great post. I always thought that the meaning with life is to live it with meaning and not follow the society:)

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