aging, coloring outside of the lines, unapologetic, age with abandon


Of course I can’t give you permission—that’s not my job. And as I said, in the tiny print at the bottom, you don’t need permission, you’re an adult.

One of the takeaways from my childhood was that my life wasn’t mine to live in the way I wanted. Growing up in the era of “nice girls are quieter and sweet” I was constantly fed a series of ‘musts’. There were rules to follow. Girls wear hats to church. My grandfather would only accept my presence if I was wearing a dress. Smile. Don’t be so assertive with boys. Be less talkative.

Why do we hang on to those old, outdated, limiting ideas of what it means to be a woman? Why does it feel sometimes that women can’t do anything they want (without being criticized)? I’m talking not just about pursuing sexual pleasure, but acting out of step with cultural norms of what women are supposed to look like, act and do.

Here’s the secret of coming into our age as older women. We can do whatever we want.

Mix your plaids and polka dots. Dye your hair purple. Be loud. Take up all the space. Take another lover. Show up.

Permission granted in advance by the Universe.


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  • Lori
    Posted at 09:51h, 12 March Reply

    Funny thing, our need for permission. For me, waiting for permission from outside keeps me from finding the best version of myself, the woman I was created to be – that unique self, wonderfully and fearfully made to become an ezer-warrior in this life.

    • Walker
      Posted at 10:20h, 12 March Reply

      Exactly. It’s so often conditioning we have to overcome. Thanks for reading.

  • Haralee
    Posted at 10:31h, 12 March Reply

    Well said!! Some rules need to be broken.

    • Walker
      Posted at 12:25h, 12 March Reply

      I agree…and that’s my new quest!

  • Musings, Rants & Scribbles
    Posted at 15:31h, 12 March Reply

    I love this. More and more, I see how women of earlier generations (including mine) were never encouraged to be independent entities. We were always supposed to find a man to navigate through life with, the younger the better. I feel it did many women (too many centuries to count) a great disservice, even though there are wonderful men out there.

    • Walker
      Posted at 07:33h, 13 March Reply

      Laurie, that was how I was raised and I’ve seen the impact on my life. So, my new quest is to urge women to give themselves permission! Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this.

  • Lynne
    Posted at 17:42h, 12 March Reply

    “Here’s the secret of coming into our age as older women. We can do whatever we want.” Yes! And it is liberating!

    • Walker
      Posted at 07:34h, 13 March Reply

      It sure is! Kinda like the old bra burning days! Thanks, Lynne.

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