Monday morning, November 13, I launch a week-long offering for women who want to take a look at their attitudes towards aging and its impact on their lives. It will be a safe place to explore aging–how you feel about it and what you want to do differently. With emails and a secret Facebook group and live chats we’ll look at all the things that keep us stuck. And we’ll explore ways to find the joy and power in being who we are right this minute.
As I have confronted the beliefs I hold about aging and their effects it’s helped me creating a different way of approaching life. I offer the course knowing that others are on similar journeys.
I want to share what’s bubbling up for me as I plan for next week and our daily writing prompts. I think these questions and thoughts speak to the challenges of aging in a society that worships youth. You can check out the course offering, Openings to learn more and sign-up.
Where are you in your life? Are you where you want to be?
Are you doing things you enjoy?
Aging is tough and we may find ourselves in a place we hadn’t expected to be—restricted by expectations and attitudes coming at us from all sides and restricted or minimized. We see doors closing—maybe we closed them ourselves?
Maybe it started with that first wrinkle or the time someone calls you Ma’am…but that moment comes and you begin to worry about ‘getting older’. Of course we are getting older—been doing it since day one. But at some point, we hit this moment when getting older means “old”, with all the connotations society puts on us as older people.
We live in an ageist culture—youth and youthfulness is the desired goal. Looking young doesn’t guarantee we’ll feel good about ourselves but if we look the part, it becomes easier to pass for “not old”. We put energy into buying the right products and reading everything we can grab about staying youthful. But doing that often puts us in negative space. We spend time fighting our reality, looking for ways to alter our bodies and ourselves, thinking we are no longer good enough at a certain age.
Some of us become obsessed. We worry that our partner might not desire us. That we’ve suddenly become invisible. That we won’t get the job or the next opportunity.
What happens when we shift the focus and learn to love the face and the body we see in the mirror? We can learn to focus instead on our gifts and talents. And as a result we can relax and find the positives in our lives. And we settle into what surrounds us—in this exact moment. And as we let go of all the fears that go with aging, we find a sense of peace and ease with life. No more striving to change or deny. No more angst and frustration.
We are just who we are—and the doors open. We feel free to be our unique selves, with joy and celebration. And we find a richness and comfort in accepting this new phase of life. And we realize there is power in stepping boldly into this age–whatever age that is, and rejoicing.
Joy because we realize our own gifts. Joy because we have gratitude and acceptance for our journey.
Power in not being driven by culturally based fear of aging. Power in leaning and accepting our bodies, and our lives. Power in how we show up in the world—and the role models we become for those around us.
Celebration for the letting go. Celebrating the unknown and the delicious anticipation of being in the world as we are. A sense of wonder and excitement about this next phase of life—which does seem to reappear when we accept ourselves and get intentional about how we want to relate to others and how we make our choices.
If this sounds like where you want to be next week, join us. OPENINGS
Also published on Medium.