Let’s Celebrate! It’s National Masturbation Month

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Let’s Celebrate! It’s National Masturbation Month

I wrote this back in 2013 and I still feel it is important to use the words and talk about the benefits of masturbation as a tool for increasing a woman’s sexual pleasure.

This May I’m celebrating Masturbation Month. I’m thrilled to be a part of this movement to bring sex out of the bedroom and into the …..use your imagination!   I’d like to change the title to Self-Pleasuring Month as it has a more delicate and obvious tone. Because that’s what we’re doing–we are giving ourselves pleasure.

There are many benefits to masturbation, or self-pleasuring. The main one being pleasure. We celebrate to emphasize that it is acceptable to enjoy our bodies, just as we enjoy the foods we eat, the sights we see and the myriad things our hands explore  (use your imagination) in any given day!

As The Sex Expert at Better After 50 I wrote a post on Masturbation Month talking about the many reasons a woman over 50 should be self-pleasuring….in case you don’t already know why!

  1. Self-pleasuring, for both sexes, is the quickest, safest and least complicated way to achieve a climax or simply enjoy pleasurable sensations.
  2. Women’s bodies are not as straightforward as men’s. Some of us have trouble achieving orgasm. Through self-pleasuring you can become acquainted with your clitoris, labia and vagina. You learn what areas feel good and how you like to be touched. Do you like a gentle fluttery touch or something firmer? Where exactly do you  need to touch to get that breathless sensation? Do you need penetration as well as clitoral stimulation? You learn about your body and it’s responses through touch. And, you can then share that knowledge with a lover, spouse or whoever!  (probably not your kids or your mother)
  3. Women who are single want and need sexual release. Self-pleasuring is ideal. It’s safe and satisfying when there is no suitable partner around.
  4. Sexuality starts in the brain for many women. When we think sexy thoughts we become aroused and more inclined to engage in sexual activity. It jumpstarts our libido. Self-pleasuring, at least for me, helps me feel sexier. It gets me thinking in a playful, sensual mood that can last all day!
  5. There are health benefits associated with sexual play. Some women experience a decrease in lubrication during menopause—the arousal that comes from sex with a partner, or solo sex produces natural secretions. Vaginal sexual activity helps to keep the vagina walls supple, which can reduce or prevent vaginal atrophy. Orgasms make us feel better, give us a spurt of energy, get our heart rate up a little and overall, contribute to a better outlook on life.

The How-To’s of Self-Pleasuring It’s simple. On the most basic level all you need is a little lube and fingers. I’ve found that lubricant enhances the sensation, if you don’t use too much. Fingers and toys glide and it feels divinely silky. Give it a try. The goal of self-pleasuring  can be orgasm or exploration and sensuous pleasure. I’ve found that when I’m less goal-oriented it’s a more satisfying experience. From personal experience I’ve found that using toys exclusively can make it harder for me to orgasm with a partner so I alternate. I’ve got some suggestions based on some of my favorites. You can find them at most shops selling sex toys.

  • For a fast, quick and surefire orgasm: The Magic Wand Vibrator  (originally the Hitachi Magic Wand) —the Mac Daddy of vibrators. It’s extremely powerful, so I prefer to use it with a washcloth placed between the wand and my clit. (It works well for backaches as well!)
  • If you want a toy that makes you feel like a sex goddess I’d suggest the JimmyJane Form Four.   Mine’s pink. It’s sleek, sexy and waterproof.  And, rechargeable with three speeds and three varieties of pulsations. It works externally or can be inserted. It’s one my occasional partner enjoys as well!
  • Looking for something small and discreet? A basic vibrator isn’t very expensive and can be used internally or eternally. This might be a good “first vibrator” or a good addition to your sex toy box.  Some of these vibrators are small enough for a partner to use the toy and along with finger or tongue play at the same time.
  • The Rabbit Vibrator: A former boyfriend gave me the Sex and The City model—The Rabbit Hat Vibrator. I don’t really like it, but you might. It’s toy with 2 vibrator type features—one to insert and one for the clit.  I find it too much work to get the ‘rabbit ears’ located where I want them. There are various models to choose from, with slightly different features.


Whether you use a toy or your own fingers, I encourage you to experiment with self-pleasuring. I love my afternoon play sessions! If you have a partner, he or she will love hearing that you’re taking time to satisfy your sexual urges. I think you’ll find an increase in desire for sex and your level of sexual responsiveness as you become better acquainted with your body.

On the other hand, if you’re single and in a dating relationship with a guy who can’t really figure out how to pleasure you, you might just dump him and buy yourself a new sex toy. I’ve had better sex with myself then some of the men I’ve found myself in bed with. And, when you’re done—wash up, put it in the back of the drawer and get on with your daily life!

Photo by Sharon McCutcheon on Unsplash

  • Donna Hole
    Posted at 02:01h, 21 May Reply

    I’ll pop over to read the Over 50 article.


    • Walker
      Posted at 08:09h, 21 May Reply

      Thank you Donna!

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  • Barbara
    Posted at 20:27h, 23 May Reply

    I think this post should win you the Sex Goddess trophy for sure! Great post! Love your title, by the way.

    • Walker
      Posted at 07:44h, 24 May Reply

      Thank you! As you know, I am a big advocate for self-pleasure.

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  • Yvonne Wray
    Posted at 12:56h, 28 May Reply

    “There are many benefits to masturbation, or self-pleasuring. The main one being pleasure.”

    Thank you for bringing the conversation up in a positive way. Also for being a strong voice for women to know and take pleasure from their bodies. I believe that women’s sensuality and the confidence that comes from owning it are essential to a better life for everyone.

    • LauraLil
      Posted at 21:20h, 28 May Reply

      Pleasure! Absolutely.
      I agree with outlook on sensuality and the resulting confidence. I know, that in my life, the more I tap into my own sensuality and pursuit of pleasure, the happier and more content I am with life!

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