30 Dec Introducing—His Turn
When I started the conversation about male sex writers I had no idea that it would lead to more connections and conversations. Or that I might become so interested in the topic of male sexuality. In the last month or so I’ve had some wonderful conversations with men in the field of sexuality and men who wanted to talk about their personal lives. All of this has affirmed something I think I already knew.
Men experience the same emotions and insecurities, ups and downs, delights and desires, and moments of vulnerability as women. They have sexual questions similar to ours and they struggle to find a place for answers, or even a place where it feels safe to talk. We have more in common than not. We want to please our partners and we want to know if we’re doing a good job. We worry that we aren’t performing well enough or that we will be found lacking. Women worry about their bodies and to a lesser degree, so do men. And, we have similar delights and joys in expressing our love and our sexual selves.
Yet we still have this uncomfortable divide. Women who openly express desire for sex risk being called slutty. Men who express sexual desire are considered to be displaying typical ‘expected’ behavior–and we are comfortable with that until…somewhere, somehow, the line shifts and we fear men who talk too much about sex. We get squeamish and worry a little when men begin to talk openly about how they like sex, how they feel, and the more intimate details of their sex lives.
Let’s create a world where we can talk comfortably and openly about desire–male and female. Where the two parties can talk to each other about their own view of sex. I believe that the best sexual space is a shared space. And, with these thoughts in mind I have created this page, His Turn, to share and engage with my male readers. I will be brazen enough to say that maybe, under the roof of a female educator and writer, we can create the right environment for exploring male sexuality.
My pledge to you guys is that all articles will be sex-positive and male-positive. If you want to comment anonymously I’ll accept that. And, when it comes time to share and talk I welcome all voices. However, negative, blaming and critical comments will be deleted. You tell me what you want to read (firstname.lastname@example.org). Every week, or two, I’ll share things I think are of interest- to invite conversation, create a spark, educate or simply amuse.
I’m excited. The best sex I’ve ever had occurs when both parties are sharing.
It’s His Turn now…