When you look in the mirror who do you see?
We are not The Wicked Stepmother. But we live in a culture that would negate aging in much the same way. And, as we look in our mirrors there’s no way to avoid the signs of aging. The hair turns grey, wrinkles creep in, age spots appear, our breasts start to lose their firmness (which somehow sounds gentler than, ‘they start to sag’) and our tummies get a little softer. Menopause deprives us the hormones we need to keep skin supple.
We have choices.
We can fight aging with makeup, surgery, fibbing about our age, dressing like a 20 year old, dyeing our hair–denying the beauty of our age. Or we can embrace our age, as gracefully as possible. We can settle in, adjust, adapt and celebrate our wisdom.
That Damn Mirror
Are you looking in your own mirror or looking in the mirror held up by society? The skewed mirror of youth where underweight and airbrushed teenage models rule the kingdom and older women are either crones and hags or distorted renditions of a more youthful woman (think Joan Rivers).
Let’s create a new image for over 50 women. Let’s give Madison Avenue and the PR boys a loud “F*%k You” and live the life we want. Without judgment. No comparisons, excuses or apologies. No more constipation or irregularity ads. Let’s create campaigns showing us as vibrant, employed, active women–sexual, capable of intelligent conversation, strong and engaged in the world around us.
To fully tap into our own power and sexual energy we have to love ourselves at this age. We have to remind ourselves of our sexiness, our sensuous power as women, even if we’re not actively engaged in a sexual relationship. Our bodies aren’t perfect–they never were. The key word is acceptance.
Take a long look in that magic mirror. What do you see? A loving partner, an amazing cook, the CEO of a company, the philanthropist, a gardener, a mother, a lover. We are more dimensional than the cultural portrayal of ‘the aging woman’. We are funny, witty, smart, creative, a good listener, insightful, calm, in charge, capable. Defined yet undefinable.
We get to create our own role models and stories of over 50 women–strong, confident, mature and still as sexy as ever. Power is sexy. Confidence is sexy. Mature knowledge and comfort in one’s own skin is sexy. Experience is sexy.
Rejoice at the beauty and wisdom the mirror reflects back at you.