22 Jul Choose the Right Lubricant for Your Midlife Needs
I was contacted by a woman recently seeking my advice on lubes and vibrators. I’ll do a Q&A post later this week addressing her questions but I wanted to talk about buying lubricants separately. I chose Good Vibrations for my lube review because they have a nice variety of products and a great article in their how-to section with everything you need to know on How to Choose a Lubricant.
Choosing a lubricant is more complicated than you might think, not just any lubricant will do—particularly if you plan to use it with sex toys. Sure you could go to the grocery store and just buy some K-Y Jelly, but here’s what you’ll get : “Water, Glycerin, Hydroxyethylcellulose, Chlorhexidine Gluconate, Gluconolactone, Methylparaben, Sodium Hydroxide”. Sodium Hydroxide is commonly known as Lye or Caustic Acid. Yikes! Use the product on your most sensitive skin and your body is absorbing all of those unpronounceable Chemicals. Chlorhexidine Gluconate is an antiseptic. Also not needed in your vagina or elsewhere. (Source)
Let’s back up and talk about why you might want to use a lubricant. Have you ever had a massage on dry skin? Know how uncomfortable it is to feel the tug of their hands on your bare skin? Massage oils allow the hands to glide over body parts. A good oil or lubricant eliminates the friction that can range from uncomfortable to painful. Lube also helps if your body’s natural lube isn’t as plentiful as in the past. The labia, clitoris and skin in the genital area are tender and deserve loving care. At any age, lube allows fingers, body parts and sex toys to glide across your skin. For older women who may have the thinning skin that comes after menopause with the depletion of hormones, the least bit of friction can cause discomfort. A lubricant will help eliminate or reduce that discomfort.
You can use the lube on your hands, sex toys and other body parts, but you need to be careful about which lubricant you pick. If your sex toy is made of silicone then a silicone based lubricant can damage the toy! Oil-based lubes should not be used with latex condoms or products.
It’s worth the time and effort and expense to buy a quality lubricant that is safe for your body. Some women have sensitive skin or allergies and have a reaction to scented lubricants or other additives, so you might want to consider an organic product like Sliquid or GoodCleanLove.
Please, a line of lubricants developed by the people at Good Vibrations, comes in cream, silicone, liquid and water-based gel versions. I tried the water-based gel and the cream lubes to do a comparison. The cream version is very nice and seemed to last longer than the water-based gel. Neither had much of an odor or taste and would be fine for oral sex. The Please cream lube does contain some silicone but the description indicates that it is safe for use with silicone-based toys.
The Pink silicone lubricant was very nice, no taste at all! But as is common with all silicone products, it required a little more soap and water effort to clean up.
Good Vibrations sent me a small glass vial of uberlube, a silicone product that felt less sticky than some of the others. Gorgeous bottle and presentation!
If you buy a quality lubricant you really can’t go wrong. And if your main purpose will be for use during sex without condoms or sex toys then use anything you want. I love using organic coconut oil I buy at the grocery store. And, then as you branch out, buy a few different products and see which you like the most. But, I urge you to use a lube for self-pleasuring and couples sex–it will make so much difference.
Have a favorite you’d like to recommend?
Here are more articles on lubricants for your reading pleasure:
- Wetter is Better, How to Choose the Right Lubricant, from SaferSexEducation.com
- Pick the Right Lube for Your Sex Toys, from Little Shop of O’s
- The Coconut Oil Craze, from The Condom Depot
- How to Choose a Lubricant