29 Jun

Aging Women Want S-E-X, Damn It

I got a compliment the other day about my willingness to start conversations about women and our sexual experiences. It reminded me of how much...

12 Feb

When we suppress our anger–musings on niceness

I'm following some writing prompts on IG and choosing words to see what unfolds. And wow, it's powerful and I'm thinking and really leaning into...

07 Jan

Satisfy: to satisfy oneself, to be satisfied, to find satisfaction

I gave up resolutions several years ago in favor of choosing a word to guide my way through the  coming year—not always successfully.  If I chose...

08 Sep

Who’s in Control of Your Sex Life?

During the pandemic I’ve watched lots of TV, streaming to be exact. Recently I started watching Bones, a forensic-type cop show—casting several very thin, very...

21 Aug

When we want too much…or not enough: Prioritizing ourselves in relationships

“Somedays I still tell myself to take what is offered, because if it isn’t enough, it is I who wants too much.”    The Crane Wife,...

16 Jul

Embracing our aging, scars and all

 I am standing naked in front of the full length bathroom mirror looking at my scar.  It is 9 inches long, starting just below that little...

01 Apr

Finding pleasure even while social distancing

I woke feeling heavyhearted this morning, a night of mild anxiety surfacing in disconnected bits of dreams. Monday the governor of Virginia called for a...

13 Mar

The Benefits of a Mindfulness Practice for Sexual Desire

If there are times when you don’t experience sexual desire you’re not alone. It is an issue which affects women of all ages. I love the...

05 Feb

Tips for having better sex after divorce

Writing one's stories isn't always easy. Particularly the part where we come face to face with some of the things we did that we now...

22 Jan

Is there an expiration date for sexual pleasure?

Is there an expiration date for sexual pleasure? The messages we receive daily, as older women,  would seem to indicate that at some point, around...

19 Dec

The benefits of valuing a woman’s sexual pleasure

As we approach 2020 my wish is for a year where women make their pleasure a priority. I see this as an important step for...

07 Oct

writing our stories, acknowledging strong emotions & engaging in self-care

I am suddenly back in full writing mode, with a sense of being in the writing flow and determined not to sabotage myself. I started...

03 Sep

Dating as older adults: Do we risk showing up & asking the important questions?

Dating as older adults isn’t easy. In some ways, as we age, I think it gets a bit harder. Having recently seen the unexpected end...

16 Aug

thoughts on turning 65: choices, options, finding joy

Starting in mid June I began a countdown to my 65th birthday by sharing observations, insights or other tidbits related to what is often considered...

05 Aug

The Pleasure of Aging: my gift to you

You may have read about my recent travels to Mexico. It elicited some conversation, with women reaching out to tell me about their desire to...