I joined other panelists, Ken Solin, a HuffPost 50 blogger and author, Joan Price, Ageless Sex advocate, blogger and author, Sidney Schwab, surgeon and blogger, and Ashton Applewhite, author and blogger on ageism. We had 20 minutes to discuss sex–what it’s like for older individuals, the limitations of sex with age, and the misconceptions that surround sex and aging. Our moderator, Abby Huntsman, did an excellent job. It was fascinating to watch her surprise at the open tone of our conversation.
The panel discussion was delightful and informative. Afterwards we stayed on the Google+ Hangout and chatted. I’ve watched the video again (fascinating to see yourself ‘live’) and I wanted to share a few thoughts with you:
- First of all, I can hold my own on air–I already knew that, but it convinced me it’s time for the next step, Video Blogging! Stay tuned.
- The interchange between panelists helped me to clarify, even further, my thoughts on how we view sex and aging–we are such a youth-oriented society that there aren’t enough positive images of older people engaging in intimacy. We only see young people acting sexy. Older people? They’re mostly hunched over their canes or complaining about irregularity and leaky bladders. It’s no wonder that those young whipper-snappers grimace when an old gray-hair like me talks about sex. tee hee.
- I learned that senior men still place a premium on their erections as an indicator of virility. Some things never change with age! (sorry guys)
- I realized that Adult Sex Education holds more value than ever. We have so many adults who miss out on intimacy and sex for myriad reasons. And, there are so many simple steps we can take to improve our sexual outlook. My job is to continue to speak positively, countering stereotypes and fostering open conversation among adults.
I invite you to watch the video, Ageless Sex, and let me know what you think. I hope our discussion will offer hope and inspiration–we’re all aging. It’s a beautiful thing to experience intimacy with a loved one–challenging sometimes, and worth every bit of angst, stress and timid conversations you have to overcome.
photo from movie The Last Station